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We’ve got to talk…
Ouch! This is the most hostile phrase you don’t want to hear from your employer or your spouse which can raise your BP to critical level especially if the tone with which it is said does not sound too friendly. Those two bosses don’t invite you in for fun talk or jokes. When, especially, a spouse would say, “we’ve got to talk”, you start feeling a headache that wasn’t due yet until next year. In a split of a second, your mind reviews every possible thing you may have done or said wrong. And if you don’t calm down, you may even confess about something that is far from being the topic they want to discuss with you. Even when you know you are clean and clear like a summer sky, you still would like to dishonor this hostile invitation. Right away, you may start by asking when, what about, what the matter is. Now you may find yourself anxious to hear out the issue. If the talk appointment is postponed to another time, you keep asking yourself what the hell is he/she has to talk about. Until the time comes for that dialogue to take place, you make sure you are doing or saying everything precise and decent.
If you had a side affair date set with someone, you may want to postpone that date until after the talk you have to have with your boss (spouse) is undergone. You are like a goalkeeper praying that the player kick the ball in the direction you are planning to cover. And as the time is approaching for the séance to be held, you are monitoring the face expressions and gestures of your prospective interlocutor in an effort to predict if it’s going to be a case where you might or might not need a lawyer. You don’t know which alibi to brew. So get ready to do some critical thinking. In the meantime, you have the right to remain silent, for anything you say can or will be used against you during the course of dialogue.
Sometimes, when you finally presented yourself for the talk, you were told, “forget it for now, we’ll discuss it another day. At this point you feel like it’s not something very important to worry about after all. Well it might be that they are just compiling more arguments against you. Well, enough is enough, let the chips fall where they may. When your spouse or boss would summon you in for a talk, what usually is their subject? Could it be praise, raise, promotion, or reward? Or could it be complaint, salary cut, demand, demotion, divorce, or termination? Have you ever been improvised with the proposal, “We’ve got to talk…? How did it go? Can you make it fun to hear? We've got to talk fellow viners.
